Video Cliff Notes:
"vulnerability is the willingness to show up and be seen without controlling the outcome."
We can't get rid of shame. Acknowledge it,
1st: don't type, text, react. give yourself a minute to get back on your feet.
Talk to yourself like someone you love.
then call someone you love that you know will help you through empathy
shame can't hold on to being spoken.
"We have to own our story or it owns us."
"Do not look for evidence that you are not worthy of belonging because you will always find it. Our worth is non-negotiable."
When we stop caring what people think, we lose capacity for connection
When we become defined by what people think, we lose capacity to be vulnerable.
Shame, scarcity, comparison will always be a part of the human experience. Reserve seats for them. "Take your critics to lunch and say I hear you. I'm trying to innovate. and I'm going to do this. I am not interested in your feedback but thank you for showing up."
Get clear on your values. Bravery is a great value
You have to have one person in your life who loves you and is willing to accept you despite your falls in the arena.
Shame is built: Secrecy, Silence, Judgement will slowly corrode everything in your life
Shame cannot survive empathy and compassion
Joy and Gratitude are not interchangable
Joy is the most terrifying emotion to experience. When we lose our tolerance for vulnerability, joy becomes foreboding
Joyful people can manage the fear by practicing gratitude.
Joyful people appreciate the little things.